A child is already disadvantaged in their ability to relate to other people by the trauma they have suffered. It carries through to maturity and beyound. Can this learning be unlearned? Yes! But it is damned hard work and in order to be successful it will take making a commitment to love yourself. Start with … Continue reading Family Dynamics: Trauma Bonding, ‘there has to be another way to live this life’.
Yesterday I met an angel... Going for a walk with my colleague on my lunch break, I invited myself to meet her daughter and grand-daughters at play. "Where's the monster?" My colleague says chuckling while looking for Evie who I'd heard so much about. The play area is filled with parents and their young ones. … Continue reading Chp 4 Otherness, with loving kindness: Evie…
So, I sent my estranged mother a card to congratulate her on her new Flat. I do this for myself, regardless of our history. For my own good I cannot be in her presence. This is what caring from a distance looks like...
I am currently doing a mindfulnesss course to regulate my anxiety. I am being encouraged to take time - take time for myself. With no hurry or worry of consequence.
'Whiteness' & 'Blackness' are contructed identities that polarises the world we live in. They are also the colour of the umbrellas which currently shelter economical and political power. In a now crumbling binary world is there room for a polka dot umbrella?
The older I get, the less I know… I am comfortable with this – Eva Moody.
The following is a re-blog
I think it is the most powerful thing in the world, no, make that the universe. It is something everyone strives to avoid, yet it is essentially what we all end up with when we die.
When we are born we have nothing. We rely on others to care for us and give us the things we need to survive. We quickly latch on to those things for we innately know they are needed for survival. Even the love of our parents is not something that we begin with, but we quickly learn what it is and understand we need it to survive. Babies who get nothing don’t survive long.
As we grow we are taught to become something in life. You don’t want to grow up and be nothing, be a nobody. We are pushed to excel academically, athletically, even emotionally with relationships. We are socially driven to…
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So, I am walking to work at 7.40ish am in the morning. It had been raining all night. There is a great big puddle on the pavement. Another commuter on legs is coming towards me. I have my buds in my ears my hood up. Mentally I am preparing myself for combat, why? I expect … Continue reading Chp 2 Otherness with loving kindness: The puddle…
"Educate don't relegate..." Eva Moody When faced with ignornace, educate don't relegate even if it exposes you more than you want to be. Aim to learn one thing that is true about someone you don't encounter in your daily life, to make the world a friendlier place.